Seeking
to understand the political and social dynamics we are experiencing in the
U.S.A., U.K. and elsewhere in the world led me to read Ta-Nehisi Coates’ book, Between the World and Me (2015). This is
an elegantly written book by an African American author who has gained wide
recognition for his deep descriptions of the influence of race in America. I
needed the personal approach Coates took, written in the form of a letter to
his son, primarily because the white privilege that I enjoy makes it nearly
impossible to have a deep and full understanding of what Coates describes.
Coates
started by saying that race is the child of racism instead of the other way
around. In essence, the need to name others as different and thereby
characterize or discriminate was the starting place for what American society
has come to understand as race. This compulsion to define created ‘a Dream’
that orders the way we interact across groups, creating expectations both
within and between groups. “The Dream thrives on generalization, on limiting
the number of possible questions, on privileging immediate answers. The Dream
is the enemy of all art, courageous thinking, and honest writing.” (33% through
digital text)
Raised
in Baltimore, discovering the rich diversity within African and African
American culture at Howard University (The Mecca), and exploring the
metropolises of Chicago and New York, Coates concluded that he was part of a
society “that protects some people through a safety net of schools,
government-backed home loans, and ancestral wealth but can only protect you (his
son) with the club of criminal justice.” In his view, this reflected either a
failure to deliver on good intentions or was evidence of the sinister intent
that allowed violence in schools, in communities, and in gangs (11% through
digital text).
Ultimately,
Prince Jones, the privileged son of a female physician and admired by Coates during
his years at Howard University, brought Coates to understand the deep
vulnerability of his own son. Followed by a police officer across several
jurisdictions with no justifiable provocation, Prince was shot to death when he
stepped out of his car at a friend’s home; the investigation of the shooting
cast more questions on Prince’s character than on the police officer’s judgment.
The necessity for a Black father’s discipline of his son was thus underscored
in devastating ways - either discipline into submission or sacrifice to the
streets and law enforcement officials. The Dream could seemingly only be
achieved by telling “black boys and girls to ‘be twice as good,’ which is to
say ‘accept half as much.’” (59% through digital text)
A
question Coates repeatedly raised was “How can we escape the Dream that
confines, limits, and imposes a certain lifestyle seemingly without option to
fashion a life that is unique to ourselves?” Eventually Coates began to see
argument and disagreement, and the ultimate discomfort they bring, as providing
light to the shadowed path of personal fulfillment. Only by questioning could
he pursue a unique and freeing way of being in the world. This questioning included
rejecting a Dream of needing to be, talk and think as if he was white.
Coates’
book is not easy reading. Some of the images and dynamics he describes are
unfamiliar or disturbing. More importantly, embracing the impact of what racism
has caused hurts, it hurts because we are all complicit in what people of color
experience in America. With imperfect understanding, my empathy has improved, a
path toward the changes that must eventually come if we are to live in a more
just and compassionate world.